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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's ethical (well, not UNethical, at least) but very unwise. These folks should take care of a difficult child for at least a week, solo, with no help and see how it goes.
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this was maybe a bit harsh. I'd say "high-risk," perhaps, rather than unwise. And I'm talking more about people who are like 36 and haven't met the right person yet and are thinking, vaguely, of freezing eggs, vs. someone who's thought long and hard about adopting a child in need and done all the research.[/quote]

AND been vetted by a trained social worker, their medical doctor, had their home inspected by the health dept and fire dept, been drug tested, had their finances and psychology examined, as well as multiple criminal background tests.

All of this is MUCH more than biological parents are subjected to, so I would say that adoptive parents are above average when you think about it. [/quote]

Having 10million dollars greatly reduces the risk since in the worst case scenarios you have the resources to hire as much help as you need. I really want a second but don’t have a good answer to high risk what ifs - what if the kid has special needs, what if it’s twins, what if something bad happens to me during the pregnancy that affected my ability to be a parent to my existing child (I’m her only parent…). If I had 10 million dollars, I’d be much more likely to have a second.

Personally I see adoption as much more high risk than having a child. That is one reason I ultimately did not pursue it.

I seriously considered adoption but that was way too high risk for me. 
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