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[quote=Anonymous]I work part-time and my DH works full-time, and he'd be the first to tell you that if we switched places, he'd do a quarter of the household work and childcare I currently do.

That might not be all men -- I have encountered men who are the primary parent, do the majority of the cleaning and household administration, and/or manage the family's social life and vacations. But it's a minority of men and most of the time, women are doing a LOT more of that unpaid labor in making a family work. I also know families where the man and the woman work the same amount, or the woman has the more demanding job, and yet the man STILL does not do as much of the household/childcare as the woman does. Thinking specifically of a few families I know where the women have very high powered, high paying jobs and the men are treading water, and yet the women are the ones on top of meal planning, what kids need for schools, kids activities, etc. The men do other stuff -- they play video games, they read, they have regular boys nights, etc. All perfectly fine things to do! But their wives never get to do that stuff because they are the breadwinner AND doing the bulk of everything else.

Often when men work less, they fill that extra time with things they enjoy. When women work less, we fill that time with things that benefit our whole family. Not always true, but often. I think that's why the knee jerk reaction to a man who doesn't work is that he must be a lazy freeloader. Because a lot of the employed men I know are freeloading too. Whereas if a woman with kids doesn't work, I assume she's doing pretty much everything else. And most of the time, I'm right.[/quote]

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