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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Virginia Tech is targeting to be over 50% URM so she should have no problem there.  Not to be offensive but does anyone really notice if someone is hispanic anymore?  I think being [b]unattractive[/b] or unpopular is a far bigger risk to sorority initiation than being non-white.[/quote]

OP here.  The bolded part is what makes me uneasy about this whole greek thing. Too much value put on looks, and by what lense are the being measured?  I hope my daughter will be able to find an inclusive sorority if she ends up rushing in the end. [/quote]

Greek life is just about that in many cases.  My college had rush during new student week, before any freshman had even had their first class and 2 days after they had arrived on campus.  The process just seemed so much like "pay to have friends". At a minimum, IMO, rush shouldn't happen until at least 2nd semester so students have the opportunity to meet people and make friends on their own accord and explore clubs/activites before going thru a process that can be cruel and is often based on superficial factors.  I sat back and watched girls feeling dejected because their top 3 choices "didn't want them", so they switched to liking Sorority X, when the day before they "hated sorority X and would never want to be a part of that".  Also watched girls who had just started making friend groups in the dorm and at new student activities, no longer continue building on the friendships that had just started because after the first 2-3 days of Rush they were heading towards different sororities and rush/sorority life/pledging took up so much of their social time.  Just seemed sad that these kids didn't have enough self confidence to trust they could build lifelong friendships on their own, without a group of 50 older girls telling them they were in or out. [/quote]

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