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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's 17. As long as you brought him to visitation and encouraged him to  try and work it out with his dad and not cheering or egging him on to walk out, then it's not on you. You can only do but so much... At that age can you truly force a child? This is on his father to reach out, encourage him to stay and work it out. You shouldn't have to do that for your ex. [/quote]

He’s not 17, that was another poster.  He’s 14.

If I said “I need you to do this.” he’d listen to me.  Especially if he thought it could influence custody.  [/quote]

At 14 you need to be a parent and support dad no matter how much you hate him.  If you don’t want him as dad then be honest and don’t take child support. [/quote]

The beauty is, you are not entitled to have a good relationship with your kids even if you are supporting them; just ask any non-divorced families with difficult teenagers.  If the kid doesn't want to do anything with their dad, it's not the mom's fault.  Might not be the dad's fault either, but definitely the dad's problem to solve.[/quote]

Moms behavior, actions and words clearly impact the relationship.   Dad cannot solve this without both parents working together.  Op is not willing.  Difficult teeenagers are that way for a reason. Baring mental health issues that are genetic, look at the home life.  [/quote]

NP here, you’re projecting your own issues with OP’s.[/quote]

Read the op posts.  She has been clear.  [/quote]

Exactly.  Per OP, "If I said “I need you to do this.” he’d listen to me...."

OP knows what she can do to fix this problem but isn't doing it. Why post on here for suggestions when she knows what the right answer is?

Mom needs to sit sonny down and tell him that the custody agreement is not a suggestion and not something that can be ignored. BOTH parents and the court decided this schedule was not only fair but important for kid to maintain relationships with mom and dad.

Kid is old enough to understand this. If it becomes "dad's problem to solve" then he can and should go to court to rectify it. A 14 year old needs his father despite the natural desire to pull away.

Who knows? In a year or two the kid may go through a phase where he can't stand being around mom. I guess when that happens OP should expect the father to give the same response, "Oh well, I can't do anything about it. It's your problem to solve. I won't make him spend any time with you."

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Equally important is she needs to co-parent with  Dad and not just say  what happens in his house is her problem and what happens at her house is none of her business.  [/quote]

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