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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’ll never get those years with your babies back.[/quote]

I hate this. Nobody gets any years back. That's how time works. You still have a baby if they go to daycare.[/quote]

+1. I hate it too. I don't want those years back! I struggled with the infant stage. My baby was better off having a village of support. [/quote]

Well that’s you. Many of us feel the opposite. My SIL took an 8 mo leave with her first and only 3 mo with her second, and she still feels that short leave impacted their relationship, 10 years later. For many women, being home fir a while with their baby is essential to bonding with their kid.

For me it was essential for my mental health. I tried going back at 4 months but had PPD and what I needed was more time with my child.

Any woman who wants to go back more quickly has my support. But many women want/need longer and that’s treated like some kind of moral failure. It’s not. It’s standard on most parts of the world outside the US. For many, many women, that’s a critical time that they cannot, in fact, get back.[/quote]

PP here. Everybody should have the option of a longer, paid leave (1 year, potentially split between parents -- I like Germany's Elternzeit system). 
I still personally would have gone back at like 6 months though. I can't deal with the isolation of staying home with a baby, and I did have family help. It was awful. [/quote]

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