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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a funny thread - MYOB is what I would say.

I'm responding because I actually bought my oldest a car and didn't buy my younger kid a car.

But you aren't in my household so you don't know the reasons!  My younger is going to a school where he doesn't need a car and he is leaving soon.  We said we would let him drive my car until he goes to college and when he can bring his car to college, he will get a new car and his will last longer.

[b]My older son was older, got a car in high school and he really wanted one[/b] and he now has his at college.

Both kids get one new car from us and the younger is choosing to get his later so he will have it long after college, presumably.

Each kid is getting a car when they want it-- but from the outside it doesn't look fair.

Butt out.[/quote]

This is exactly the thing that preferential parents tell themselves.

If you had simply said younger DC can’t take a car to college, so we’re waiting to buy him one, I might have bought it. But you had to launch into a long explanation about older golden child has actually had his new car in HS while younger child drove yours, etc. because he “wanted it.”

I can’t tell you how many times that I heard, “well, favored sibling got this because he asked/wanted it/needed it.”  Did if ever occur to you that the younger child has learned not to ask and/or has been sent the message that he doesn’t deserve better? [/quote]

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