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[quote=Anonymous]Spend everyday time with them.  The best conversations are on road trips (no eye contact when you're the driver makes it easier for them to talk openly) or at bedtime when it's dark.

Watch their friend group closely.  Their social circle is a huge predictor of what direction they'll take.  Get to know the other kids and their families as much as possible.  They are extra sets of eyes and ears for you.

Don't be afraid to have them feel bad or hurt.  Being corrected/told no never feels good but it sometimes has to happen.  And yes, let them fail.  It's easier to help them pick themselves up and learn mistakes are not the end of the world when they're 10 instead of 30!  Resilience is a critical life skill!

Please also teach them to be kind.  Caring about others is more than doing service.  It's accepting that sometimes someone else's needs come first or taking some lumps on behalf of another.  Our quest to look out for ourselves and put our well-being first is tipping way to far toward outright selfishness.

Genuinely compliment the good qualities you see in them often.  Pride in those things is just as important - I'd argue more so - than recognizing academic, social, or athletic achievements.[/quote]

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