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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue isn't if you can see your son.  The issue is including your boyfriend and his kids and what does your son want?  I find it completely inappropriate you asked.  You should see them on a different day and make this about your son, not you and your boyfriend.  Or, take your son out to breakfast or lunch with your boyfriend and his kids but nice would be for you to focus on him, and not him in a large group or what he wants.  [/quote]

A[b]s I said before this is the only time we can all get together when they are in town. [/b]Otherwise I would compromise with exh and what he prefers.

I’m positive ds will have more fun doing our plans anyway more than a low key breakfast where we “focus” on him whatever that means.

In my view my ex-husband made this about my boyfriend. Not me. If I had said I wanted to take them to dinner just me he would have said fine. 
 
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Why is this?  Why can't BF and BK kids change THEIR plans to accommodate you and your son, who is having the birthday.

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Family commitments on their end and sports commitments on my ds end. 
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That is unfortunate then.  I  believe your son should make the choice, not you pulling the "2 hours" card.  Good luck on threading the needle.    
FWIW, I am 30 years out from my parents' divorce and have not spoken to my dad and his wife for 20, due to far too much of this type of drama.  [/quote]

I'm 10 years out and my dad always puts his girlfriends first and my mom puts her boyfriend and his family first... I don't really see or talk to either of them and have no interst in playing family with my mom's boyfriend who is a bit weird and makes no effort with us and its all forced by my mom.  [/quote]

The biggest reason why this long-distance relationship appeals to me is because It’s easy to keep my kids separate from my relationship and “put them first”. That doesn’t mean I don’t ever want them to be around my boyfriend and his kids so I take those chances when I have them. [/quote]

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