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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I needed DE, asked my sister, and was devastated when she refused. We ended up going anonymous instead and in the end I think that was the right choice for us, avoiding all kinds of legal and emotional land mines. My kid is awesome, by the way, and bizarrely, looks a lot like me (people always remark on it), even though the donor looks nothing like me!

But there's definitely the appeal of a genetic connection and known history.[/quote]

I would have refused and I am very close to my siblings. It seems pretty entitled to even ask. [/quote]

I see nothing entitled about asking a simple question.  Hope others are more thoughtful, generous, and willing to help than you seem to be.[/quote]
DP. I’m thoughtful, generous and willing to help. I’d be willing to carry a pregnancy for my sibling. I’d make a monetary gift if funds were an issue. I’d provide plenty of emotional and practical support. But I’m not donating eggs to anyone because I don’t think I could step back and treat that child like they were just my sibling’s or cousin’s child. I’m not sure I could have a healthy relationship with the child or my relative (child’s parent). I wouldn’t decline because I’m unwilling to help; I would decline because I think the experience would negatively impact my familial relationships.[/quote]

You are more than entitled to that perspective. But there are many people who would happily be egg or sperm donors for those in need and would not feel like they were the child’s parents. The only way for someone to know is to ask. They should not be insulted if told no but [b]no one should ever feel insulted to be asked either. [/b][/quote]

This is utterly crazy and entitled. Absolutely nuts. [/quote]

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