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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I needed DE, asked my sister, and was devastated when she refused. We ended up going anonymous instead and in the end I think that was the right choice for us, avoiding all kinds of legal and emotional land mines. My kid is awesome, by the way, and bizarrely, looks a lot like me (people always remark on it), even though the donor looks nothing like me!

But there's definitely the appeal of a genetic connection and known history.[/quote]

I would have refused and I am very close to my siblings. It seems pretty entitled to even ask. [/quote]

I see nothing entitled about asking a simple question.  Hope others are more thoughtful, generous, and willing to help than you seem to be.[/quote]
DP. I’m thoughtful, generous and willing to help. I’d be willing to carry a pregnancy for my sibling. I’d make a monetary gift if funds were an issue. I’d provide plenty of emotional and practical support. But I’m not donating eggs to anyone because I don’t think I could step back and treat that child like they were just my sibling’s or cousin’s child. I’m not sure I could have a healthy relationship with the child or my relative (child’s parent). I wouldn’t decline because I’m unwilling to help; I would decline because I think the experience would negatively impact my familial relationships.[/quote]

I would have a hard donating an egg and not feeling like the child is mine to some degree. The stress of it is going badly for the child. The poignancy if I fell in love with the child. Lots of weird potential.  That said, I know a lesbian couple who is using the egg from one wife and the sperm from the other wife's twin brother. So far so good in terms of the relationships. [/quote]

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