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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you want to take care of your parents then do so.  Parents, to me, are selfish expecting it.  I don't have any kids and sure wouldn't be dumping any responsibilities on nieces.  I can't put my head in the sand and pretend I will never get Alzheimer's or figure out what to do if I need personal care.  Parents seem to do this all the time.

Most parents didn't do any of the same level of care for their older relatives.  And it had nothing to do with them not having parents.  The Longitudinal Study of Generations from California which tracked boomers, their parents, and grandparents showed that boomer women in particular are the first group that did caregiving en masse.  Their parents and grandparents didn't do all that much so moving away and that was that.  It's a big myth that previous generations were doing this.  I didn't even realize that most of my senior neighbours had living parents as they maybe visited them once a year.    [/quote]
Who cared for the grandparents of the boomers and earlier generations?  Hired help for the rich and the poor house for the rest?  [/quote]

+1. I think this person is confused.[/quote]

NP, but huh? Life expectancy in eg the 1940-50s was early or mid 60s. People typically died of heart disease or infections without the extraordinary interventions of today. Very little eldercare was necessary probably because “elders” did not experience decades of post-retirement dependence to begin with…![/quote]

+1, my grandmother lived to 99 and was slowly killing my mother for the last ten years of g’ma’s. G’ma was in an progressive living arrangement and eventually was in memory care. My mom is one of 6. But my mom was the main point of contact so any emergency she or her youngest brother were the ones who did the bulk of heavy lifting. 
My great grandparents all died before my mom was a teenager. My grandmother did NO elder care. [/quote]

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