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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I married someone who had narcissistic personality disorder and a terrible addiction. His dad was an alcoholic and his mother was an NPD who was probably bi-polar. They're all brilliant and highly functioning on the surface. It took years for me to figure it all out. My husband HATED his mother, however, and for good reasons.

Would I marry into this sort of situation again? Hell no!

If I ever remarried, it would be to someone like my father or brothers, who all love their wives and mothers. I married when I was way too young.

OP, good luck to you. I hope you find happiness, one way or another.

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Thank you. I'll take my time to understand as much of his background and his coping mechanisms as I possibly can. My ex doesn't hate his mother (he should!), instead at 42 he's still trying to win her approval.

I dont think your ex is necessarily typical. I didn't feel liked by my dad and I'm in a strong marriage and have not had counseling. I get that my dad is a negative, crotchety guy who has difficulty expressing himself. I'm also very grateful that my DH didn't sit there scrutinizing my every move because he had a bad experience in the past. To be honest, I feel a little bad for your current BF. He has the cards stacked against him and it seems like you're just waiting for him to prove he's broken.

To the poster who mentioned reading the literature on the topic of growing up with a bad mom, you so get it! Thank you. I think others just assume it's a rush to judgment given the title of the thread. But, honestly, it's not. This is a well documented area. [/quote][/quote]

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