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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Time to talk to her like an adult and share your side.  [/quote]

OP, your xDH did not want to divorce and he was embarrassed or hurt or wanted some privacy, etc, so that's why he's saying it was a joint decision.  It became a joint decision but you initiated the change in your marriage.  Your DD deserves to know your truth.  You are not protecting your DD.  She will be upset with you.  You need to be the adult in your relationship with your DD.  She is defending you to your DH and she will be embarrassed by her behavior toward him now as well.

Try to imagine the same scenario with your parents, or maybe what you are describing actually happened in your family of origin as a way of relating to each other.  At present, the situation with your DD and your xDH is another facet of you deferring to state your needs truthfully in a close relationship and allowing someone else to take the blame or be blamed.  It's the same as you describe yourself as having done with your xDH.

It's ok that you did not want to spend the rest of your life negotiating, but you say you didn't stand up for yourself when you were married, and now, again, you are not standing up for yourself directly in your relationship with your daughter.  You have to explain who you actually are to your daughter.  You decided after a period of time that you wanted to divorce your husband and thus you told your husband and he had no further choice in the matter.[/quote]

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