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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to have to commit this post to memory and channel it often when I'm the grandparent. Your IL's vacation schedule is what we do 100%. Down to the sandy sandwiches and sitting around chatting every night. I think it drives my sister's husband crazy because he's not a beach guy and probably craves more to do. My parents and my nuclear family love it. Hopefully I have some awareness someday! 
Personally I think it's perfectly fine to skip some but not all of the big things- beach, happy hour or after dinner chatting.[b] But it sounds like you'd prefer to skip all 3 and I think you have to suck it up and do 2.  [/b]Or introduce Uno or some game after dinner, but call it quits early and skip the chatting. Also, just order dinner. They'll enjoy it more to be taken out of the decision making and knowing the cost. Order too much, plate it nicely and avoid all the friction.  [/quote]

We do the beach, every day--we go out for a bit in the morning with them even though we prefer not to go in the morning. We also go back out in the afternoon. By now, they not only know when we like to go to the beach in the afternoon, they actively choose to pack up and come inside when they know full well that's when we'll be coming out. We go to the beach twice a day, one of their preferred times and once when they choose not to. And we have breakfast with them. And we have dinner with them each and every night. We sometimes have happy hour with them but not always, as DH and I are not big drinkers like they are and we don't hold Cocktail Hour as some sacrosanct time of day. And I suck it up and chat for two nights even though I'd rather relax and then go to bed; DH usually stays up a bit every night just because he doesn't want to hear the complaining otherwise. There's plenty of us sucking it up. I don't understand where you're getting your impression that we don't do our fair share of doing things "their way."

Hopefully you will have awareness someday.

-OP[/quote]

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