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[quote=Anonymous]"I'm entitled to feel how I feel."

"It's okay to feel sad/angry/frustrated/apathetic sometimes. If it's all the time, it's an issue. But I get to have my bad days."

"You know, talking about my negative feelings helps me process them. If I can just feel my anger or sadness for a bit, and either validate it myself for get some validation from someone else, it makes it easier for me to move forward. But I have to actually FEEL those feelings. Looking on the bright side all the time can feel like just shoving them to the side or ignoring them. I need some time to feel them. And it might take more than an hour or a day, and that's okay."

If you focus on your feelings and what you need, instead of on criticizing how they are approaching it, it will have more resonance (or should). If they persist in the toxic positivity, you might need to come to terms with the idea that they don't have capacity to sit with your negative feelings right now (for any number of reasons) and note that these are not the right people to talk to about this stuff. This is why support groups were invented -- so many people just don't have much capacity for this sort of thing.[/quote]

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