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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to cut the cord. She will make her own decisions and mistakes. Yes it sounds like a horrible idea, but it’s not your life. [/quote]

I know someone raised by cut-the-cord parents and she resents it. You don’t owe your DD money. She doesn’t need you second-guess the little decisions. But if you see your DD about to make a HUGE mistake, you says something once. Just once, kindly and briefly. Then you let her make her own decisions. Your wisdom is a huge asset; why hide it from your kid?

My own MIL very rarely gives advice, and when she does, it’s often less than three sentences. Sometimes it’s only a pointed question.  Her kids listen.

Examples:

How do you think your work will feel about you getting pregnant the first year you’re hired? Are part-time employees entitled to the same leave benefits as full-time employees? What homework have you done on the details?

Have you and boyfriend run a budget on how things will work financially once the baby comes? Daycare is $$$$ in your area for a newborn.

I hope you understand that I am in a phase of life when I won’t be able to help after 9 pm/ more than once a week/regularly. Since I need my sleep, you and baby will need to live somewhere else. [/quote]

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