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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you despised him already and this is just bringing it to a head.[/quote]

After two years of his constant complaining about me not wanting sex (after trying and trying with no "end" in sight), yes - I do despise him. So tired of getting the finger pointed at me when ultimately it's his issue that is the underlying problem. He doesn't see it this way. [/quote]

But this isn’t true. It is both of you. He is clearly stating what he wants, “I want you to initiate sex.” And you are telling him no. That is not how a partnership works. You have to keep putting in the effort. Sex is psychological just as much as physical. He wants to be wanted. You don’t like sex if it feels like a chore and neither does he. It is pretty hard to stop a medication when it feels so right in other areas. Is he able to pleasure himself to completion? After being together so long, how are the both of you spicing things up? Toys? Lingerie? Different places? Different positions? You can not blame it all on him. Sorry. [/quote]

NP. Did you completely miss the initial post? This isn't about a difference in libido or one partner feeling neglected. This is about a man with a medical/substance abuse condition who, instead of getting appropriate help for himself, is blaming his partner for his sexual problems and repeatedly *coercing her into sex that she does not want*. She has tolerate this behavior for 2 years and has finally reached a breaking point. Lingerie? Different positions? A wife is not an f-ing blow up doll. Jesus. [/quote]

Thank you. You put this into words much better than I could have. Agree 1000%.[/quote]

+1000%[/quote]

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