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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there a chance he would allow you to pose as an Uber eats driver, name of Cathy, who delivers a couple of meals and sort of "gets to know" the family in a very friendly, informal way. That way you can get a looksee at what's going on, what the overall dynamic is, etc, etc etc. Thoughts? [/quote]

NP. I hope this is meant as a joke. It's...a joke, right? Right?

If not, it's a horrible idea. Pure immature game-playing.

And in the event the OP and this boyfriend stay together, well, at some point OP is likely to meet his ex at a kid pickup or whatever, just crossing paths...and if the ex recognizes OP as "Cathy"? That's going to sour a decent relationship between the two exes, who do still have to co-parent. And if OP ever meets the BF's parents later and they also recognize "Cathy"? Hey, son, that was deceptive of you, and your GF seems possessive if she'd pretend like that....

Just, no. [/quote]

PP, try to think away from the box. We think this idea has a lot of potential. When Cathy/Kathy shows up to deliver the Uber Eats yummies, why couldn't the boyfriend something along the lines of "Well, she was kind of cute... and nice, too" and just leave it at that.

And then when she brings another meals (something "ethnic" and tasty) he says "I know it sounds crazy, but... I think she's remarkable." Or something like that.

As far as the name, OP could use her own name, but Cathy/Kathy may be more believable.  k?
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So the man is supposed to pretend even after this absurd role-play game that this was their first meeting, and that he then went on to contact her, after this vacation, and start dating her.

This is beyond immature, [i]k?[/i]

But your details are cute. "Something 'ethnic' and tasty"! "I know it sounds crazy but...I think she's remarkable." What a great line of dialogue. Go write it as romantic fiction, which is all it is. It's not how grown-ups behave in the real world. But maybe you self-publish it online! You could be the next whoever that Twilight writer is! [/quote]

PP, where is your empathy? The OP is so desperate to make this work. This may be her last chance at love and some of us in the caring/empath community are trying to assist.

There is nothing wrong with OP taking on the identity of an Uber Eats driver, or other delivery service, and insinuating herself into the family situation to get a gander and just what is going on with this ex and her cancer.

By playing along, the boyfriend, can be a silent benign conspirator AND lay the groundwork for introducing OP to his beloved family. There is also noting wrong with him saying he find the Uber Eats driver intriguing, or something like that. Instead of him saying "I know it sounds crazy... but I find her... remarkable."  He could say he finds her "charming" or "fascinating," or inspiring, or a breath of fresh air.  Take your pick.

Plus she doesn't have to go by the name of Cathy. Other names could possibly work. The point is to get out there and make it happen. [/quote]
This is utterly stupid and bad trolling.[/quote]

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