Reply to Bi women married to men

Forum Index » LGBTQIA+ Issues and Relationship Discussion

Reply to "Bi women married to men"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, and I'm disappointed this deteriorated so quickly. Can we set aside the gender identity issue for now?

New question: do you have children (assuming you do since you're on this site)? Have you discussed your bi identity with them? How "out" are you among friends?

Me: yes I have kids (young tweens) and no, I haven't talked with them about it yet. I do plan to, though I wonder how DH will feel about it. He's generally very open, but I know it will make him feel weird. Deep down (or not so much), I think he likes to pretend my previous life as a lesbian is a thing of the distant past). Yes, I am out to friends, but I literally know NO ONE else who is out and bi. Our community (NW DC) is very very cis and hetero, with a handful of queer families. [/quote]
May I ask something? I hope it doesn’t come out wrong. Assuming you’re in a monogamous relationship, why would you come out as bi to family and couple friends? Unless you were speaking of a specific prior relationship, which would be different. I totally understand wanting to be seen and known for your whole self, but couldn’t you keep that between yourself and your women friends?[/quote]

NP. Why wouldn’t you? I’ve always been attracted to women but didn’t identify as bi until after I was already married to a man. I don’t go around introducing myself as “Hi I’m Jane and I’m bi!” but it’s also not something that I think I should hide or avoid talking about? And it’s not like it’s a topic that never comes up in conversation… usually it’s more in a context of “did you like zendaya’s met gala outfit?” “yes she looked great i have such a crush on her!” type talk rather than some weird “do you only like sex with men?” “actually i think sex with women sounds really exciting!” type thing. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics