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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I slept with enough women in college to realize I wasn't as bisexual as I thought I was, as I preferred the d, so to speak, by a large margin.

That being said, women's bodies are something I do find attractive. So does my husband. We read each other's porn.

But here is the thing: I am a child of hippies who had open relationships. At least, according to my father they were open relationships. [b]Things are never equal. Things are complicated. From my own observations (and college experiences, which were pretty extensive), people always get left out. It's sort of like junior high school with nipple clamps and anal play. Someone's always popular and someone's always lying. Someone's always insecure and someone's always mean. Some things are better left imagined than acted upon.[/b]

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This is the best description of open relationships I've read in a while. It's the part people who advocate for open relationships never really want to talk about. Human beings are not actually capable of being truly ego-less and free in relationships. In many ways, a respectful and mutually loving monogamous relationship is more liberating for many of us than an open marriage, even if the open marriage would allow you to more fully explore your sexuality. There are always politics and there is always fallout.

Which I think is why a lot of bi women wind up in monogamous marriages. If you find a partner you love, and you want kids, monogamy makes that family stable and workable. Open marriage makes it hard and complicated.

Straight people give up sexual exploration too, btw. And for the same reasons -- monogamy is more stable and reliable, and generally an easier environment in which to raise kids. It may sound boring, but sometimes boring is good.[/quote]

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