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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If something is really important to you, you shouldn't pretend like it isn't. Since you are dating and you have the past experiences with your ex and your BF knows that, it would be weird if he didn't do something. But you have to not catastrophize. [/quote]

This.  You get to decide what's important to you in a relationship, OP.

That said, wait and see if he does something, either before your trip or after you return.  If nothing, you might consider ONE TIME explicitly telling him, that was really important to me, so wtf?

You could also just end it, again, if he does nothing.  Having to spell everything out for people can get really old, especially if you've already been reasonably clear.  Some people require more spoon-feeding than others, and it's fine to decide you don't want to do that for the rest of your life.[/quote]

OP: Thank you, you pretty much nailed it. He is a wonderful guy. I just don't want to have to tell someone/remind someone to do something (anything!) nice on a birthday for the rest of my life, already knowing and feeling what that is like given my experience. But you're right, I will wait to see if there is anything either before or after.[/quote]

Ok well this really matters to you. If it doesn't happen, then yes, I think you should break up with him and not get stuck in a constant churn of him not marking occasions in a special way. That is what you really want in a partner and you should keep looking for someone who has that quality. It's only been 6 months and I think it's fine to break up early on when you know you aren't going to be compatiable. [/quote]

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