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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think the people who say it's ideal have seen the permutations of what aging can look like. One breaking of the hip and it call all change. Suddenly she needs surgery and the anesthesia can make dementia set in faster. Then rehabilitation. They the house needs even more adjustments than you thought and you need someone to help her shower and use the bathroom.

It all changes so quickly sometimes. I think it is far more realistic to do the one floor condo, but make sure it's the type of thing where emergency personal could easily access the apartment and carry her down the steps. No walkups and not too high a floor if elevators are broken. Really not ideal either. My grandmother lived quite a while with dementia and unable to walk. Nursing home was the only viable option.[/quote]

I don't understand how keeping mom living alone and far from both daughters will help in these aging scenarios you and others describe.[/quote]

A residential setting is the way to go. You can visit, advocate, check on things, but have boundaries and they get socialization rather than making you their life.[/quote]

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