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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My partner has four dc's with two ex wives and all but one is a young adult.  I felt bad for him bc not one reached out to him on Father's day.  I make sure to celebrate him with our dc but [b]think he must be hurt [/b]that his other dc's don't acknowledge the day.  We don't see them much and would hate to make it a thing on the rare occasion he does see them but wonder if I should drop a hint to them that it isn't very nice.[/quote]

Well, is he hurt?  Or do you not have a close enough relationship with him to know whether he's hurt or not.

Let me tell you a story.  My dad is a great dad.  We talk every weekend, every other weekend at least, and visit several times a year.  If I didn't call him on Father's Day, he would maybe be hurt-- but more than that he would be concerned!  Concerned about not hearing from me like normal.  And he would CALL ME.  He wouldn't just sit around being hurt (or telling his new partner that he's hurt so that she'll think he cares).  He would reach out.  Because that's what people do when they care about each other.  And there would be a pattern of communication already in place because that's what happens in functioning relationships.  If your man is not calling his adult children on the regular, then what do you expect?  You reap what you sow.[/quote]

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