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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think it's taboo.

I think the reason that many people shy away from the topic is that too often when someone mentions this, they are looking for new people to "bond" with and spend more time.  As has been pointed out, many of your peers are up to their eyeballs with family commitments.  We are the sandwich generation and many are dealing with kids of various ages (depending on how early or late we had kids), and parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, who are having health issues and need more attention.  So many people are exhausted and have no room to add anything else including giving more time to someone who is lonely.

So, I think that when you mention it, people are lookin askance because they are afraid that you are looking for someone to spend more time and they just don't have it to give.   I've had this happen to me.  I had children late in life and in my 50's I have two late ES kids (twins).  I have had a number of lonely people around my age who are childfree who have been looking to spend more time with me now that my kids are "older" (e.g. no longer infants or toddlers).  They somehow think I have more time to socialize, but I feel I have less time.  [/quote]

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