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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Plenty of women feel like you do.  What was so surprising hanging out with the other SAHMs was how many of them function this way.  There is an entire ecosystem of competitive Alpha women trying to get the socially Beta women to be caregivers for their kids -- but the Alphas still get the social credit.  T[b]ake field day for example: the choice jobs which are high social credit and low effort or mentally interesting already went to the inner political circle before you even had a chance at the sign up. [/b] [/quote]

That's real. I stopped volunteering for stuff through the PTA when I realized I would always be handed the least desirable job so that the group of women who all know each other and run everything could do something easier where they can socialize and take credit for things. I'd wind up hauling pumpkins off truck sin 90 degree heat for 3 hours while the women in charge would sit at a table in the shade and take money and chat with everyone. At first I thought it was luck of the draw but then realized it was a system and I decided to stop being the grunt labor for them. I don't even attend PTA meetings anymore. I have an only child and we're halfway through, I don't intend to remember these people's names in a few years (most don't even have kids in my child's grade so there is zero reason for me to kiss up to them or facilitate their desire to run the show here).[/quote]

NP. We are at a private school so I don’t know how different or “political” the actual PTA stuff is at public, but at our school the lady in the shade handing out raffle tickets is usually the one who spent weeks or months planning the event, and every other school event, for free. If I have to haul pumpkins or run a game for a couple hours in the sun, I’ll pick that literally any day over having to do all that other shit. Bonus is that all the other parents apparently hate her guts for doing it.[/quote]

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