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[quote=Anonymous]Can't believe this has gone as far as a third page of comments and I don't think anyone yet has said this:

OP, please, please get tested for STDs.

Before you come back defensively to say, I don't have an STD!, well, some STDs show no symptoms so you can be infected and have no idea.

While you're at the doctor for STD tests, insist you get a form of birth control that is reliable -- the one where you have it inserted into your arm would would work for you because with young kids and what sounds like a hectic life you could forget to take the pill and even one missed pill can end up in a pregnancy. I'm being serious here, not judgemental. You need to get BC that is NOT just a condom. And then, guess what? You need also to absolutely insist on every single partner using a condom every single time. Yes, even while you're on birth control at the same time. The condoms are there to help prevent disease which BC does not do. But though essential, condoms also are not 100 percent a perfect barrier to disease so you also have to take the third step, after BC and condoms, of being picky about the men with whom you have sex. Sorry if you feel  all that effort is not "sex positive" enough but having sex with men youve known for just weeks is taking a real risk.

Your health matters VERY much because you have young children who need you.

Please stick to your decision not to have sex any more with your ex. That was a good call. Please stop trying to be friendly the way you have been, with movie outings while the kids are elsewhere. I know it seems nice "for the kids' sake," but you have very blurry lines between you and your ex. It will be so very easy to fall back into bed with him one day when you've just been out to a movie or whatever, and the kids aren't back home yet. See him only to hand off or pick up the kids. If it's at your house, you go outside to meet them.  He no longer comes inside your house nor do you go inside his house. Stop giving him even the slightest opportunity to see what's on your kitchen counters. You and he don't sound fully, completely broken up, to be honest.

And most of all: STD test so you can know if you're starting with a clean slate, plus RELIABLE non-pill birth control.[/quote]

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