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[quote=Anonymous]How is this even an issue for some of you, acting like home management is pro-rated to salary? What the hell??? So what did these men do before getting married? Did they do their own laundry? Their own dishes? Clean their own home? If the answer is yes, then the implication that simply because they got married they don't have to do that anymore is offensive. If the answer is no, then they can continue to pay for those services, just as they always have.

When we got married, my husband said "we should just combine our laundry." We were in the literal honeymoon phase and I said not on your life, I see where that would lead. You're responsible for your laundry just as you always have been, and in 15 years of marriage I have never done his laundry. He had always had a cleaning service, so you better believe we have always had one since. I didn't sign up for the dual role of being his maid. No hell way. If he's willing to pay for it for just himself, he should be willing to continue to pay for it, regardless of what I make. Which happens to be the same amount, give or take $10,000 based on our bonuses, raises, etc. But that's utterly irrelevant. Two working spouses is two working spouses, period. What does seem relevant, in my case, is commute time, not salary. I work from home, my husband commutes an hour each way. So I take on more simply because I gain two hours each day that he doesn't have. That's the factor that seems to matter slightly. Doesn't mean he doesn't do his own laundry, or we don't continue to outsource cleaning like he did his entire adult working life before meeting me. [/quote]

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