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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know anyone who has ever done a meal train. Is this a midwestern thing?[/quote]

Nope. I’ve participated in many here. It’s a kindness thing.

(Locally born and raised.) [/quote]

Same. FXCO native.

Don’t do a meal train for me. I’m happy to drop off a fruit basket or a breakfast to go type thing (and I’ve done both) but in my experience, it’s a waste of everyone’s time unless the recipient has specified and scheduled these delivered meals.

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+1, it's a classic case of people doing stuff that feels helpful without checking first to see if it is helpful.

I actually already had 10 casserole dishes in the freezer and ready to go before I had my baby -- it was our meal plan for the first month and when I was super pregnant we'd just make a double recipe of anything we had for dinner and freeze half. So getting a bunch of meals from other people was a pain -- nowhere to put them and we already had so many.

BUT I developed PPD and was incredibly lonely/isolated and felt like I was going crazy during those first couple months with the baby. I didn't need food but could have used support. But people seemed to have a kind of line item approach to is. Like "well I made them some enchiladas so that's taken care of." It was actually really surprising to me how many people actually look you in the eye and ask how you are really doing. I know it sounds terrible to complain about someone dropping off a casserole, and I know people meant well, but truthfully it wasn't at all what I needed and after a while I came to resent it. I would have traded all the casseroles in the world for one person texting me on a random Tuesday to ask how I was feeling.[/quote]

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