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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sometimes dcum worries me--responses about how the op was behaving badly and the kid has the right to talk to her like that because she interrupted his precious iPad time makes me worry greatly about the ability for these future adults to be able to delay gratification and handle situations that are not ideal to them without feeling majorly put out. When my mom told me to turn off my gameboy, I did it; no questions asked. I am not bitter towards my mom nor do I have any major anxiety issues related to not getting to finish my game or being respected as a kid. I think kids are being babied by this generation of parents and it's going to affect how they do in college (already a problem, college students even pre pandemic not able to handle being away from home and adulting) and as adults. Sometimes kids need to know the world doesn't revolve around them and their immediate wants.

Op, I think you were fine. Talk to the kid about how it can go differently next time, see if he has a solution (see if he can come up with the idea of a separate timer on his own before you suggest it--problem solving is a good skill for them to have). And talk about tone and model the tone you want them to have. "If you yell at me about the iPad you will lose the iPad. If you're upset about a choice I make regarding the iPad; this is how you can say it...."

I'm the old 40 year old last brandishing my cane and saying "kids these days!" But I really worry about it. Especially because of the screens. [/quote]

No you are wrong. You completely do not understand how video games work. The Mom set up the kid to fail and completely disrespected the kids space that he was promised to play a game. She essentially lord about his game time because if she said “you have five minutes of play” but then effectively spoiled his game after three minutes then she misled him and he rightfully was frustrated. [/quote]

I do understand, actually. And my point still stands. Back to my gameboy analogy. Back in the dark ages games didn't save at all. So if I was at level 10 of teenage mutant ninja turtles and my mom told me to turn off my gameboy, I would have to start back at the beginning. I survived the trauma. It's a video game. I think an alternate timer is a good idea, but the whole "your kid was right to yell at you because you ruined his game" BS is the attitude to worry about. That our kids can never be disappointed by us and they can yell at their parents at every frustration. If you're paving the way for everything to be easy for them; they won't cope as adults. [/quote]

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