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[quote=Anonymous]	Family friend? Is he referring to a family friend as in someone who is friends with his parents, or someone who is friends with his ex?  If the latter, I’d be concerned, he and his ex are no longer a family. On some level you know the language matters, otherwise you’d explain what he means by “family friend”.

I’d also be concerned that you aren’t invited, you may have other plans, but you should have been invited. 
My husband was having me meet his friends within weeks of us starting to date. If he hadn’t, we wouldn’t have gotten married, I wasn’t his f**ck buddy, I was his girlfriend now wife. I’d be wanting to know who doesn’t want you around, the friends, the ex, the boyfriend?  Why aren’t you invited?  I’m assuming you haven’t threatened the ex or anything like that.  She’ll be around, and you probably need to get used to that or end the relationship.

As for the kid, yes he comes first.  Undoubtedly plans will get changed if the kid gets sick, the sitter flakes, whatever, just remember his kid didn’t prevent the two of you from getting together, so clearly he’s not spending all his time on kid stuff. That’s probably healthy, just don’t fall for being shunted aside when he or anybody wants to play the “kid comes first card”. Clearly, the kid was just fine when he was looking for a girlfriend and on your first few dates, if the kid stops doing fine, that’d be a problem, one that probably doesn’t really involve the kid at all. Remember that. 
I’d be insisting on the girlfriend treatment unless you want to be treated like a second class person. Either that, or I’d break up with him, you can’t make him do anything, but you don’t have to put up with playing second fiddle either.  
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