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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will be the dissenting opinion and say no to 5am bedtimes for these college teens. In my house, my returning college kid has the same rules as my high schoolers. [b]In bed at midnight, phones and laptops off and plugged in downstairs, assigned chores,[/b] and expectation of summer job. Of course, there are exceptions... going to a party and back at 2am? No problem. But please be very, very quiet when you return.

I have several reasons for my house rules:
- Unless you have a night shift job, there is really no reason to be up at 3am.  What are they doing?  Roaming around at night?  Video-gaming for hours and hours? Diving into the cesspool of social media?  These seem unproductive at best and damaging at worst.
- Sleep is very important for health
- They have jobs during the day where they need to be alert, helpful, careful, and professional.
- I would prefer that they not live in my house after graduating from college, and I view my house rules as a gentle push toward finding a well paying job and an apartment.

Good luck, OP[/quote]

Time to land the helicopter. Let your 18+ years of parenting stand on its own.[/quote]

PP reminds me of my MIL, who wants everyone in bed at her house by 10pm, and awake at the breakfast table at 8am.  Because "sleep is very important for health".  She also disconnected her WiFi after being angry her college age granddaughters were using their phones and streaming shows.  She tried to take their phones during the last visit and it didn't go well.  Now everyone is getting a group rental in July when the entire family is going for a visit.  Major control issues, all of which back fire eventually.[/quote]

+1.  My mom claimed she could hear me typing too loudly on AOL instant messenger 4 rooms away when I returned home after my freshman year of college 20 years ago.  I made sure to get a job after my sophomore year that provided on-campus housing.  After that, I had an apartment.  Problem solved.  I never again stayed at her house for more than 3 nights.  Pick your battles, OP.[/quote]

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