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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK, at least she was honest. And she is doing the safe and sane thing by waving the white flag and calling you to return home.

Be grateful that she’s not like my parents or my ILs, who struggle but still insist on watching our kids at least twice a year and get mad if we ask my aunt or my cousin instead. They don’t “understand” nut allergies, don’t “understand” wearing helmets on scooters and such (my kids ask for help putting helmets on and my parents act helpless), get exhausted and everything goes to pot. I honestly would rather know even mid-trip that someone is struggling. Your MIL did the responsible and honest thing.

And by the way? Going from 2 nights away to 12 and getting mad at her that she couldn’t make that leap, even with help, is rude and insane of you. And I say this as someone who is not a big MIL fan here on DCUM.[/quote]

I’m not mad at her she can’t do it, I’m mad she agreed to do it and changed her mind 3 days before. Also it’s really not that hard when you’re watching the kids 1-2 hours a day. [/quote]

So, what, you’ve never had the experience where you want to ride the rollercoaster and then when that ride is tick-tick-ticking up the hill, you panic and want off?

She thought she could do it. She tried. She hit a limit and instead of being unsafe and irresponsible, she was honest and said she couldn’t. [b]Good for her. Boo to you.[/b]

You’re saying “it’s really not that hard” as, what, a 38-year-old in good health who has been doing this day in and day out for years? When I was 18, I routinely swam a 1650–a mile—as a race in competition. Do I think I could still swim a 1650? Yeah. But around the 400 mark I’d be like, “Oh sh…” And if I started to drown, I’d swallow my pride and signal the lifeguard.[/quote]

Not OP, but wow. "Good for her. Boo to you"? What a silly thing to say. Would you so happily suck it up and laugh, "Well, boo to me!" if you suddenly lose half your planned vacation, PP? When you're close to going out the door?

The MIL panicked and has cost her own son, the DH, and OP a boatload of money and infinite frustration as they rearrange everything. OP is even trying to be decent about it, pointing out she's not mad at MIL but that MIL left them in the lurch with only 72 hours to go before they were supposed to depart.

As for your snark at OP's saying  "it's not really that hard," did you actually read the specific arrangements OP had made so MIL basically had a max of about two hours a day of hands-on looking after the kids? Every other minute and every meal was set up so MIL didn't have to do a thing except, what, get them to bed and get them up. But this being DCUM, I'm sure you or someone will come to argue that "OP made [i]too many[/i] arrangements! OP is [i]suffocating[/i] MIL and the kids!" and so on. So many "OPs are never right" posters on this site.

Oh, and that clever roller coaster analogy? Once you hear that tick-tick as it heads upward, even if you want to get off -- you can't. You're committed to the ride. You forgot that part.

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Yes, Grandma panicked. And instead of being ashamed she spoke up. Instead of letting herself get to an unsafe place of being overwhelmed and in over her head, she said…I can’t do this. Good for her. Good for her for being willing to face disappointment and anger rather than stretch herself too thin and possibly not being able to handle the childcare safely and effectively.

I’d rather lose a vacation than endanger my kids to someone who wasn’t equipped to handle them. If something bad had happened—from the small scare to the downright tragic—you cows would all be on here saying, “But WHY didn’t she just ADMIT she couldn’t HANDLE it?!”[/quote]

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