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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to look at whatever it is that I am envying and ask myself what I can do for myself to help meet those desires. Envy is a message from your subconscious telling you about what you really, really want. You may not be able to obtain the exact same thing someone else has, but you can pretty much always find ways to channel that desire into something in your own life. Here are examples I've been through:

- Intense envy of someone who had a job I really, really wanted led to me signing up for some classes to develop a skill I'd always wanted to have, and that ultimately led me to start my own business turning that skill into a career a few years later. It's not even the same area as that job I envied, but the envy I felt helped me to focus in on the fact that I was very unhappy with my career trajectory and wanted more.

- Envying a friend who could spend a lot of money on clothes and getting her hair done led me to re-evaluate my own approach to appearance and make some changes that I am really happy with. I could not afford to just buy my way into a new look, but I culled my wardrobe, shopped consignment, consulted style blogs, learned to better style my hair and makeup using YouTube videos and Instagram, and ultimately am much happier with my appearance than I was before.

People act like envy is this shameful emotion but it's actually a powerful force for change. You just need to channel it into positive action in your own life instead of dwelling on the person who has the thing you want. In the end, I've found that the people I envied were ultimately beside the point. Once I'd changed the things I needed to change in my own life, I didn't feel envy towards them anymore. I don't really feel anything at all. Sometimes I run into them and I'm kind of amazed I ever thought that their life was better than mine -- I'd so much rather be me. But that's because I took the energy of my envy and focused it back on myself. Focusing on them is a waste.[/quote]

I love this approach - thank you[/quote]

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