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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why don't these older folks send texts to each other and harass each other for company?
I'm seeing so many comments about how these people are lonely, but I don't understand why they are reaching out to people who are too busy to pay attention to their every little sniffle.  Why aren't they directed to call/text Aunt Minnie who is also lonely and loves loves loves texts?[/quote]

Define 'too busy'. Too busy to send a text that takes 30 seconds to write? Too busy for a weekly or monthly phone call? It doesn't need to take hours.

Some people are eager to spend a sizeable portion of their free time on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram but they never talk with their elderly relatives.[/quote]

People are usually happy to talk with elderly relatives who are likeable and kind. Usually the lonely ones are needy, difficult, manipulative, guilt tripping and angry. it takes longer to recover from interacting. People go on social media or chat with friends to decompress. Nobody wants to deal with stressful things in their free time. A friend of mine's elderly mom is the sweetest woman and I grew up knowing her. I always have time for her and she is respectful of my time. I would much rather spend an hour helping her then spend 15 minutes on the phone with my mother getting another guilt trip or verbal stabbing. Every time I get a text from my mom I feel physically sick wondering if she is in a "mood."

If people avoid you like the plague you need to figure out why and stop blaming the world. Most people are decent and want to be helpful, but some people sadly take advantage. It's not about a minute to send a text. It's about reinforcing neediness and annoying behavior doing something that should just be enjoyable.

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