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[quote=Anonymous]I honestly never want to hit my kid. When I feel myself get really angry and frustrated, I remind myself of how I felt as a child when my parents used to rage at us and/or hit us, and that is enough to help me take the step back I need to calm down.

Also I know it gets maligned on these boards, but I find the "gentle parenting" stuff really helpful for stuff like this. I have written this on here before, but I actually think a lot of the gentle parenting stuff is essentially designed for people who were raised like I was, by people without the ability to regulate their own emotions who resorted to violence and yelling because it was the only parenting tool they had. When you are raised that way, you obviously don't learn emotional regulation from your parents or home life. I had to learn it myself, as an adult, in therapy and through trial and error in relationships (fun!). But becoming a parent dredges up a lot of those issues again and I find the principles of gentle parenting to be very grounding, to give me some rules of thumb for parenting, since I didn't get good rules of thumb from my own parents.[/quote]

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