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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I could have written your post - exact same situation, right down to DC still hoping to come off a waitlist that will likely never happen (financially speaking, the waitlist is a much more expensive school though we could make it work).  DC is going to a "safety" public school, but will be in the honors college and so we've reminded DC that there was a reward to their hard work, i.e., priority course registration, priority housing, additional mentor advising, etc.  We are hoping DC becomes more excited once they are on campus and so for now we are being positive and encouraging and above all listening and not gaslighting.

I also think social media does a number on these kids.  DC knows exactly where every classmate is headed and so questions why so and so classmate got into a school that they weren't accepted to, or why didn't they think to apply to that school, or countless other thoughts.  All pretty normal, IMO, and not much different than people our age wondering why we didn't get the job interview or that promotion and someone else did.  Anyway, it can really take the joy out of things if DC loses perspective on what they've accomplished.

Ultimately, I wish DC could talk to their 10-year future self who would say it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme where you went, it's about what you did while you were there (and please, I don't need people saying it does matter if it was to an Ivy, Top 20 school, blah blah blah). [/quote]

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