Reply to S/O What Do You Expect Your Sex-Starved Spouse to Do?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "S/O What Do You Expect Your Sex-Starved Spouse to Do?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]And another thing - if anyone reads Dan Savage, he posted an interesting quote on his blog recently about compromise in marriage. How you tend to make an effort to compromise on where you live, where you go on vacation, etc with your spouse and you recognize in these things that everyone is different and that that's ok. But with sex, it pretty much defaults to the frequency of the lesser-interested spouse.

That's one thing I have committed to working on - I think I mentioned I'm a few times a week gal and I'm not really that affectionate. Sex, and to a larger degree, physical intimacy is very very important to my spouse. To the point where he feels seriously frustrated and deprived if he doesn't get it. I have had to accept that that's him and that that's ok and normal. He is a butt-grabbing while making dinner, stopping to kiss while passing in the hall, flirting over text, interested in sex nightly type. He is, compared to me, very hight-maintenance in terms of desire for affection. But he needs it and he loves it and once I have accepted that, I have begun to see it not as an imposition and getting in my space, but as a confidence booster and something I really enjoy too - he really really is attracted to me. He can't keep his hands off me. That's pretty cool. He meets me part-way too of course, like I'm not into that stuff in public and he respects that. But it means that sometimes, when I'd prefer just to be washing dishes, I need to stop and respond to him kissing my neck and kiss him back and THEN get back to the dishes. Because seriously, what's more important?  And it means that sometimes, I get to say I need some alone time and he has to be fine with it and I don't feel guilty because we both accept each others needs and know that we are trying to meet each others needs most of the time. It's effort. It really is. But it's compromise and it's marriage. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics