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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im 40 and have been married for 10 years and dated for a couple before that. We see our local parents on our on own all the time. When one of them asks for their kid to come over its assumed its alone unless the spouse is invited for a thing (dinner, snack etc). We are both close with our parents. Im an only child and dh is the oldest and only son. Noone is ever offended. We spend plenty if time with them as a married unit. I have also went to see my MIL alone and took her to the dr when it was breast cancer as that was far more comfortable for her. Let it go. Let your partners parents have time with their kid without explanations prior to visits. Treating you as family also means expecting you to respect them wanting to spend time with their kid. They don't invite all their kids at the same time anytime they want yo see a grown kid. [/quote]

See maybe it's a cultural or regional thing because with our circle of family/friends if they say hey do you want to come over for dinner it's assumed the invite is for both of us unless it's specified otherwise just like in my OP. If this was a brand new relationship it would be different but given that we live together and the length of time we been together it would be extremely tiresome to ask each and every time is my partner invited too?  After so many years it's kind of assumed for family functions or dinner invitations that we operate as a social unit unless otherwise specified.

Now gender specific events that are labeled as girl's/guy's nights that would be different but other than that dinners and family get together's are assumed it's for both members of the couple in our circle.

To be clear my partner has seen his mom alone but maybe he has been wrong all these years in assuming it's ok to bring me when he does?  It would be odd then if that's the case for his mom to not say anything for 7 years.

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