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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  A big part of the reason why we decided to go with private school this year was because of the warm, welcoming community that the school advertises.  Well unfortunately we have not "found our people" this past year.  We did not know anyone at the school prior to going, we have attended every school-sponsored social activity, and while the other moms are pleasant at these activities, they clearly are not interested in being friends with me or being family friends.

I only have two friends outside of school, we are new to the area (moved here 5 years ago) and we have no local family.  I was really hoping that this school would be the place where we would finally "find our people" and make long-lasting friendships for both my child and us as a family.  I've invited many kids over for playdates, and these have not been reciprocated.  We hosted a few parties at our house for the class/parents, and nothing reciprocated there either.  My child was invited to one birthday party this year, and that was it--no playdates or anything.  I feel like how is my child going to build strong friendships if these friendships are only school-based?  My child is always complaining that there's not enough recess time to have fun with his friends.

When I was growing up, I also went to private school.  Every weekend a friend would be over at my house or I would be at theirs.  We made family friends at school who we did things with, even though most of these friends lived 20-30 minutes from me.  We ended up spending holidays with these families too.  Distance didn't seem to be as big of an issue back then for maintaining friendships outside of school.  Similar to my son's grade, my grade was also very small (I had 35 kids in my class).

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Every private we visited touted the same thing and this was before covid. We settled on one and it’s precisely the opposite of that. It seemingly makes sense that privates would have a “community” feel. It’s an easy marketing sell that no one would question. Won’t fall for that again and not looking back. [/quote]

I am a PP a couple posts up.  I also found the same at our school, though I admit I haven't tried hard and don't really care much about that aspect.  TBH, I think one of the factors is just the distance apart everyone lives, which is probably similar at most privates.  I have found the most friends just in our neighborhood by virtue of simply hanging out outside and the kids playing and riding bikes.[/quote]

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