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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I had a baby and she is all over the place about what she wants. She switches from working PT, quitting her job and staying home, or doing daycare/nanny FT. We have about a month to decide and she still hasn’t come to a decision. I know it’s super hard to her - I try to be as supportive as possible, but I’m limited in what I can do because it’s her decision. She looks to me for advice and gets annoyed when I give her the same response - she can do whatever she feels is right for her. I can’t make a decision for her and I feel like we keep circling the same topic over and over. Help! [/quote]

Provide some examples of how you’re being “supportive.”

If you think it’s as easy as merely saying, “I support whatever your decide, c y later,” think again.

This is a big family decision. Bust out the budget forecasts, 5 and 10 and 20 year goals, understand her field and what she’s giving up if going PT or stepping out or not, same for yours, help her find other people who did the same big decision for any similarities, etc.

Telling a child or teen of spouse “do whatever” is not offering advice. Where’s the advice OP?

Advice is the wise old elder (or a decision making process at work) that helps one think through options, weight values and goals, and arrive at a clear answer. And know that you can change your mind again later and here’s how.  [/quote]

What frickin advice can he give her? She knows her job, her career trajectory their finances.  etc. The only processing that needs to be done is the process of her making a decision.[/quote]
Wow. I’m pretty sure any friend or child or relative would never ask you for any thoughts again if this is your piss poor attitude. [/quote]

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