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[quote=Anonymous]So many great & encouraging perspectives so far on this post! I've thought about my own response for a day or so and really wanted to capture since I think I was in a similar boat - just both my husband and I have demanding careers (we enjoy), no law firm money but we have enough to do what's needed for comfortable survival.

Our kids are about 18 months apart - I'm going on month 11 of two in diapers. We weighed either having one child, or having two close together, I had an easy pregnancy and delivery but awful PPD so was hesitant to open this up again. The first few months were kind of a challenge, just being so tired (which will happen at any spacing of kids) but having gone through newborn already and so recently everything we needed for knowledge and "supplies" was already on-hand, making it significantly easier just having those resources alone. We also had other resources at the ready - we knew we weren't going to cook, so had meals lined up, we weren't cleaning so had our cleaners booked, etc. we never needed to re-buy things like car seats, toys, clothes... it was still in the closet or being used. What also makes/made it easier was my first adjusted without issue, he was so young he quickly forgot about life before his sibling came along.  We kept him in daycare, and made sure to give him a lot of praise for being helpful, but otherwise it was a very smooth transition.  This said, toddlers, no matter if they have a sibling, are going to be tough. Babies are easy in comparison.

I will say, if I already (first is now 2 1/2) didn't have our second, and I survive potty training, I wouldn't ever want to go back to the start with another. I wouldn't want to be pregnant again, go through diapers again, potty training again. I wouldn't have regretted my decision to only have one kid, I just wouldn't have wanted the second at that point in time.

My second though, is the joy of our family - I'm tearing up just thinking about life without her, she's a true gift and everyone's favorite member of the family (I took a vote, unanimously won) She's not easier or less work, but she makes us complete. It's expensive, we pay a lot for sanity, but I don't miss the money or energy one bit.  I think if you're inkling for a second, just go for it, you're old enough it won't get easier (trust me there) by waiting. [/quote]

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