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[quote=Anonymous]In your shoes, I'd figure out exactly what I needed from my husband, tell him what I needed from him, and insist upon it (kindly).

I did something similar. I told DH that even during his really rough times at work, I needed a date night once every two weeks, family dinner 4 nights a week, and for him to get one-on-one time with each kid each week, plus for him to take the kids a couple of hours each weekend so that I could have a break.

The conversation went well. I explained how the situation was impacting me and making me feel in a non-accusatory or blamey manner, and I think it was really helpful for him to know exactly what I needed from him and understand how it would benefit him too.

My guess is that what you need from your husband is for him to get a different job. My husband is a big law partner and has always worked a lot, but the hours your husband is working are obscene. You are right to be concerned. Most relationship hills are not ones you want to die on, but this is one of them. Your husband's hours will kill or at least seriously damage your relationship, even if you don't get a divorce. You need a life partner and your kid needs a dad. I'm sure your husband will balk at the idea of getting a new job but if he sees you're really serious about this I imagine he will probably come around eventually.  [/quote]

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