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[quote=Anonymous]I agree about hiring a nanny. When you're working full time, it's hard to get the kids fed, dressed, and out of the house. And it's hard to find enough hours to work before you have to pick them up. A nanny frees up that time, and the more the nanny can do (laundry, food prep etc.), the less for you. It's frankly huge. And with two littles, the cost of a nanny vs. full time day care isn't usually terribly significant.

I have two, and they're five years apart. Partially because I desperately needed to catch on sleep and partially because I got older and it took longer to get pregnant. But they're now almost 4 and almost 9 and it's pretty perfect. My almost 9 year old is responsible enough to hang out with his brother in the yard or watch him in the basement while I take a shower. And he likes playing with his little brother. At almost 9 and almost 4, they're just now starting to quarrel. But thankfully, big brother is mature enough to remove himself from little brother's antics. I'm hopeful they'll be BFFs.

By spacing them out, I never had two in diapers. And when I needed to tend to the little guy, I didn't have to worry about my older child's safety. There are downsides, like that they'll never be in the same school. But I can send them to the same summer camps, and the community swim lessons are at the same time. And big brother can walk to and from school, so I'm not doing two drop offs and pick ups.

We would've been satisfied and thrilled with just our one. He's a lovely person and I feel fortunate every day to be his mom. Little brother has turned our lives upside down. Other than with potty training (took one week at 26 months), he has been faaaaar more challenging than our first. He's contrary and stubborn by nature, and other cares about himself. But he's creative, and goofy, and so much fun. And it's exciting to watch him tackle a jigsaw puzzle. So I wouldn't have it any other way. But our lives would be a whole heck of a lot easier with just our relatively easy oldest.[/quote]

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