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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My BF is retired at age 62. He wants me to move to NC to live with him. He has a pension and a great retiree lifestyle. I am 52 and in the prime of my career. I need to save as much money as I can to ensure a comfortable retirement. I don’t have kids— I am going to be alone in my very old age, assuming I’m lucky to live that long. BF wants me to get a less stressful job so we can spend more time together. He told me [b]if I keep my current job, things won’t work out between us[/b]. I like my job and it would be hard for me to find another one that is both less stressful and allows me to save what I’m saving currently. I’ve spent years building my career, but my BF means a great deal to me. I don’t want to lose him, but I also feel put off by his [b]request[/b] here, like he’s trying to make me fit into his life with no regard for my needs. I’m not sure what to do.[/quote]OP, reply honestly--is the bolded above a "request" or is it "blackmail"?  Fear of being alone and fear of dying are the only reason you see through rose/vagina-colored glasses.  Not feeling respected.[/quote]
OP here. It kind of feels like blackmail. I have a sick feeling when I think about this.
Earlier in our relationship he said he’d move to DC if that’s what it took, but he has changed his tune.
He loves where he lives and doesn’t want to give it up. I think it’s more important to him than I am.[/quote]

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