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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends a lot.  My stepdaughter failed classes every semester for 3 semesters.  She would just procrastinate, get behind, and then avoid it and skip classes.  She has ADHD but her mother is in denial about it and has convinced her she doesn’t need medication of coaching.  It was just community college so hit a fortune, but still a considerable amount of money to just be throwing away.

The last two times she has asked for money for classes, we have said she can pay ahead of time (she has plenty of money in her savings of very generous birthday and holiday money) and that we would reimburse half for any passing grade (presumably, her mother would pay the other half.)

Unfortunately, she decided this wasn’t a good risk for her OWN money so she hasn’t tied to enroll again, nor has she made any changes to address why she failed over and over.  It’s a shame because she’s a bright woman.

Anyway, I’d want a young adult to have some skin in the game if I had the sense that he/she was just blowing off glass.

To be clear, I don’t believe parents have a right to access to their adult children’s grades unless they are paying.  If I’m funding my son’s college, I expect him to show me his grades at the end of every semester.[/quote]

You just said that your "skin in the game" advice caused your kid to drop out of college...so perhaps you should not be mentoring others on this topic.

I feel bad for your daughter. Again, by your own admission, her mother is in denial about her disability...so perhaps you did the best she could, given her condition. 
Why don't you pay for therapy or an educational specialist who can help her figure out how to move forward, instead of holding money over her head. [/quote]

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