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[quote=Anonymous]OP, only you can really know what he's like in all situations, but for me this is a definite yellow flag. Especially at 41, in this moment, to think this is funny and relatable.

Its one thing to assert that all [straight] men look at attractive women and think about having sex with them.  Stop the presses. What this comedian is saying is different. It's that women are *only* valuable for their sexual availability and only before age 30 (!??) and after that deserve to be treated like trash--thrown out, killed, whatever. Finding that relatable is, to me, trouble.  I dont think I could relate to a person who related to that.

If you stay together, Id really start to see how he talks about other women--whether movie characters or in real life--and ask yourself, does he respect women in generl? Do you respect him?

I had a bad boyfriend once who used to say really terrible things about overweight people (women really), like calling someone a fat cow. I realize it was steeped in misogyny and other issues; it made me really uncomfortable (and I got the message that i would be shamed if I gained weight) but I was young and insecure and didn't listen to my gut and break up asap. I just sort of said that's terrible, dont say that.  I should have broken up asap because he turned out to be an emotionally stunted douchebag who wasted a couple years of my life.

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