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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I remember this and yes, it's totally normal, and yes, it sucks. I think it's especially hard because as people marry and have kids they tend to get lots of positive attention at a time when they have great stuff going on in their lives anyway. I remember feeling invisible when I was in this stage.

In addition to the advice above (which I think is very good) I have one more piece of advice that I think will serve you whether you are single or dating or getting married:

Find a hobby. A true hobby -- something you are passionate about and want to pursue even if it doesn't help you meet men. Could be an activity like yoga, running, or rock climbing. Could be an area of focus or study, like reading (and maybe writing?) mystery novels, or baking, or woodworking. Make it something you can do with other like-minded people but that you can also pursue on your own. And then dig into it. Devote time to it, look for clubs or events in the area, take an online class on the subject. Find something that makes you feel good when you are doing and that you look forward to and enjoy talking about.

Part of this is because it makes dating better -- people will be attracted to your passion, it gives you something to talk about, and it makes you more memorable. But it's also to help sustain you. When you are going on dates and nothing is clicking, or you see someone for three weeks and they abruptly drop you, or it seems like everyone you meet is divorced or older or just doesn't feel right, having a passion will give you a break from all that. If it involves developing a skill or knowledge, it will also be a confidence builder and give you a reason to feel good about yourself that has nothing to do with your love life.

It will help, I promise.[/quote]

Agree with this. In my 20s, including late 20s, I was really into downhill mountain bike racing and bike parkour. I wanted to talk about bikes, races, bike parts, bike trails and bike destinations. I wasn't trying to find a husband, but I met soooo many great guys. One did become my husband. [/quote]

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