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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand why women think its okay to put other women through this when its not an absolute necessary. You do realize most surrogates are from economically weaker section of society, right?  This is not surrogacy, its rent-a-womb. When did this become a norm, to just willy-nilly rent-a-womb? [/quote]
Yeah, you'd rather those "economically weaker" women instead get themselves a second or third service job so you can get your french fries and manicures more easily, wouldn't you? Talk about gross. Women of any economic background are sentient beings who can make their own choices about what to do with their bodies without your patronizing input and control, thanks.[/quote]

Am so sorry. I bow down to your intelligence. Because, a service job that you can change at will is the same thing as dedicating 9+ months of your life to carrying someone else's baby, including the medically induced physiological changes it ties you in with. Of course, the emotional weight of working in the service industry is the same damn thing as having to carry and then give away a little human being nurtured by your own body. The risks? Pfft...whats the big deal that the medications might cause depression, menopause, gestational diabetes, hypertension, and god forbid loss of reproductive organs or even life.

Sure women of any economic background are sentient beings - except if the woman of economically weaker background had other means of earning the surrogacy money, she would not be putting herself through surrogacy. But hey "lets not patronize them", lets just take advantage of them.

I swear to god, some women will justify anything if its in their favor. Surrogacy was supposed to be for women who had a critical need for this very humanitarian service AFTER a medical need was well established. But no, we are now in the realm of handmaid's tale. One poster says women are now doing it for vanity sake, so its okay. Another who already has a child, and no established medical need just wants to try it. Sure lets just try putting a poor women through surrogacy, trial and error is affordable for us, to hell with her health. Yeah!!!!

Believe me, I know the pain of fertility, I am there too. But please pause, think, and proceed with caution and empathy. If you were to proceed with DE, even with somebody else's baby inside you, you would consider yourself the mother - emotionally and physically. Don't disregard this same effect of surrogates. Be very cognizant of what it is you are asking these women to do for you. Vanity, and Trial&Error are not good enough reasons for it.

PS. I am so glad countries like India have now passed strict surrogacy laws.

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