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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are kind of considering something similar but not exactly the same with my brother. My parents, brother, and 90-year-old grandmother all live in the same town. My brother is in his mid 30s and rents an apartment with a roommate, and I own a condo with my husband in DC. My parents have said that they would let my brother live in my grandmother's house when she passes away as long as he pays all the expenses/property taxes/etc. There hasn't been talk of giving him the house though, just of letting him live there at a discount.

This does not bother me even though I am paying a mortgage and feel unable to afford a house in a neighborhood where I would want to live. I have more means than my brother and so am ok with them helping him out in this way. I also feel fortunate that my parents are well off, we will not need to pay for their care as they age, and that we are likely to get a comfortable inheritance down the line. My husband's family has been in the opposite situation, where my MIL went through bankrputcy and was living off of SS alone, and that has been very stressful for my husband and his siblings. The possibility of an inheritance seems like a big bonus over and above knowing that my parents have enough to provide for themselves.

I think I don't feel badly because I feel fortunate for what I might end up getting and for what my parents have already given me. My brother lived with my parents for awhile and they have also bought him cars, but they paid for college for me and it was a lot more than my brother's education. My brother also is more of a caretaker personality than I am, and he already helps my parents/grandparents out more than I do from afar. So I think it all evens out in my mind.[/quote]

My spouse is in a similar situation as you and I think that's a pretty different situation from the one that I'm describing and wouldn't be something that would bother me. It's the large transference of an asset to one sibling and not to other siblings with no real discussion and the framing of that as equitable, when it's obviously not, that bothers me. [/quote]

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