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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She isn’t “standoffish”: she doesn’t want anything to do with you at all.  Leave her alone.

I was your niece.  The entire family refused to acknowledge that my creepy uncle said wildly inappropriate (sexual jokes, comments about my body, speculation about my relationship status, etc) things, often after he’d had a few beers at family dinners/events.  He did this to one other niece, but she lived across the country.  The creepy uncle’s wife, my aunt, is a determinedly optimistic, blinkered woman who refused to see or acknowledge and my parents were the same.

So my aunt would probably have described me as “standoffish.”

Are you sure there is nothing about your family dynamic or an individual family member that is triggering her?  She isn’t reacting in such an emphatic way for no reason, you know.[/quote]

Yeah, I'm the 50 year old standoffish niece. Once uncle bobby started talking to me about my "p*ssy", that part of the family was pretty much dead to me. I know his behavior would always be explained away. So, these are people I would never let my child be with unattended and my aunt is angry that I, the only girl in my generation, won't take over arranging family reunions and secret santa (clearly that could not be the job of a man in the family). I wish things could have been different but I just have to let them go.

If this isn't about family dysfunction, the niece does sound like she could have something else going on that makes typical socializing hard for her.[/quote]

Yeah me and my sisters rapist was the preacher at my brothers funeral. My family was dead to me, after they didn't stand by my side over the incident. Those that did but still invited him over for family functions, also fell on deaf ears as well. But hopefully that's not what OP/Niece is going through.[/quote]

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